Why I hate the word “sexy”.

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Genesis 1:26-27 26 Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; and let them rule over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the sky and over the cattle and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.

Genesis 5:1-2

Descendants of Adam

This is the book of the generations of Adam. In the day when God created man, He made him in the likeness of God. He created them male and female, and He blessed them and named them Man in the day when they were created.


We’re all fearfully and wonderfully made, we’re beautiful, we are incomparable- we’ve heard it all before and we’ll continue hearing it and believing it. But what else will we keep hearing? By the title of this blog post some may be confused, others offended, some just wanting to know why, either way I know this has to be discussed.

I’ve had this post placed on my heart for quite awhile now, it just turns out God placed it in His timing for me to write it now. And I believe- I KNOW- that God’s plan aligns like nothing else we could ever imagine, everything is perfect because HE is completely perfect. And this is why I know that it was not a coincidence that before I began writing this post, God laid it also on my heart to catch up on the past two church sermons that I had missed. The series we are in is titled “Blessed” and it is from the sermon on the mount that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ- WHO IS GOD- gave that is oh so blessedly given to us in HIS Word- The Bible. The particular sermon that God had me listen to tonight was about anger, but it isn’t anger that related to what I am going to talk about in this blog post.

“Words hurt.” This, is what relates to what I am going to talk about.

Before I even begin to get to that point, I am going to start off with a little grammar lesson that relates to the point of this whole post. Why? Well, you’ll see.

Why do we add the letter ‘y’ to the end of some words? In a simplified answer, it is primarily to emphasize and extend the, well, extent that the original word is being used. For example,

We know what it means when something is fun, but when something is funny, it is so much fun that it creates a hysterical reaction- full of fun.

We can identify a word as a word, but we know that when something is wordy, it is something that is full of words.

We don’t think enough about what words actually mean, no matter how much they are used in such a casual way, and I believe that the word “sexy” is one of them.

When you hear or read the word “sexy”, you see something you’ve seen a billion times- all over social media, magazines, television, billboards- this word is known to all, and that isn’t a good thing. We see or hear this word and think of it as “a compliment” along the lines of pretty, attractive, or even beautiful. We think of it as a way of describing someone when we see them. But little of the time, if ever, do we stop and think about what we’re saying.

Some may say I’m overthinking this, others not understanding, some calling me crazy for saying such a popular word could be that bad, but it is. The first reason I’m giving is the reason which is pretty much the basis for the others.

We don’t think about what the word truly means.

In and of itself, we don’t stop and look at the word and how it is even put together. “sexy”. When we look at the word and break it down like the previous examples that I gave, the original word sitting there is “sex”. There’s no going around it, no trying to deny it, it’s right there. Add a ‘y’ to the end of the word and you get a definition that basically says “full of sex”, “a symbol of sex”.

Some people probably just got so confused like, “woah woah woah, there’s no way that that’s what the word means, I mean, come on, we use it every day”. And some may think “Well that isn’t what I’m trying to say when I use the word, and the same is for others I hear use it.” Which is true, that is usually not the intentional meaning people have in mind when using it, reading it, hearing it. It’s just viewed as another “compliment”, “adjective” word. And that is exactly my point as I’m writing this blog post. We don’t pay attention to our words enough and what they actually mean when they are sitting RIGHT in front of us.

I realize that this word has been used for quite some time, and I mean quite some time. We see or hear it average once a week if not every other day in some way. But just because something is common doesn’t mean it’s correct or right, even okay to use. It is in fact quite disrespectful.

We are created in the image of GOD.

No denying it, it’s one of the first things HE shows and tells us and reminds us continuously of in HIS WORD. Being respectful to GOD means being respectful to HIS WAYS. Y’all, we are one of His ways- His ways of doing something marvelous and amazing- creating us…. in HIS image only. I don’t think, I hope, that we would call the image of God “sexy”, whatsoever. Whatsoever meaning even us, who are created IN HIS IMAGE.

The word is used so much.

Think about it, how many times it is used in captions on social media, in a conversation on a morning talk show, even used in storefront advertisements all over the world. There’s no stopping (anytime soon) this word being around us because to be truthful, it’s going to be in a lot of places. And this word is used so much that it has become as common as the simple word “and” or “the”, and has become a bullet point on the list of “descriptive, compliment” options in our daily vocabulary.

This word is used too much.

As I said, this word has become so common as to fall in the category of daily “descriptions” or “compliments”…Which means that there are other options. Out of all of the exquisite, wonderful words (there’s two right there) that have been given to us in God’s gift of speech, we choose “sexy”. Do not settle for words such as these when you have all of these other great words to use in your daily vocabulary. Our words go such a long way, beloved friends, they do. W are to use our speech for GOD and HIS GLORY, to glorify HIM ONLY, EVERY MOMENT. Don’t take the moments that you have the blessed opportunity to speak for granted, they are opportunities to share Grace Himself.

There are way better words to use.

BEAUTIFUL

FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE

CREATED

PRETTY

LOVELY

ELEGANT

BOLD

These are just some of the words that we can use instead of the word “sexy”. There’s a reason why these words look like more, mean more and are more than the word “sexy”- because they describe not only outward appearance, but the inside, the character, the soul. You see, we are so so quick to immediately want to describe a person by their outward appearance. very rarely do we look at a person and use these words to describe their soul, their inward appearance. One of GOD’S blessings is the ability for us to do this, and like a lot of HIS BLESSINGS, we sometimes overlook it when it is so easy to see the outward and not the inward. BUT GOD- yes, here HE goes working miracles. BUT GOD. HE has given us the blessed ability, opportunity to be transformed, renewed, and when this happens, there is a change in you- a blessed, marvelous change by and through HIM that includes what? The ability to see people not as an outward structure of flesh but of a FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE SOUL- GOD’S CHILD.


We need to please GOD.

Even in our words. I am in no way saying that “If you say, hear or read the word sexy you are just horrible and you aren’t pleasing God with your life.” because that’s not true and not what I’m meaning by all of this. What I mean is that GOD calls us to be wholesome in everything- our actions, thoughts, conduct, behavior, character, everything, including our speech. So let this be a reminder that THE ONE WHO created us, IS THE SAME AND ONLY ONE WHO has blessed us with the gift of speech, to uplift one another, and has given us the ability speak wholesome words that will put wholesome thoughts into one another- the blessing to use wholesome words other than the bland, the word that’s meaning is far from the others’ wholesome meanings and thoughts- “sexy”. But don’t change your vocabulary or your thought process in a way that is to please others and make them feel good- which is a good thing, to speak and act in a way that will help others- but remember WHO WE’RE DOING IT FOR- THE GOD, THE CREATOR, THE LORD GOD THE ALMIGHTY THE FATHER, LIFE AND LOVE HIMSELF WHO LOVES US AND HAS FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY CREATED US- WHO KNOWS US INSIDE THE DEPTHS AND OUTSIDE, WHO CREATED OUR SOULS AND HEARTS AND LOVES US.

Now again, my purpose of this blog post wasn’t in any way to point fingers to anyone, but to point out a different perspective on even the most common of things in the society, in the world. And may this be a reminder that I am more, you are more, we are more than even close to “sexy”, so let’s act and speak like it. Remember, we are loved by GOD, LOVE HIMSELF, and I am, you are, we are fearfully and oh so wonderfully made by GOD THE CREATOR, LIFE HIMSELF. Focus on HIM, beloved.

Ephesians 4:29

29 Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.

1 Timothy 4:11-12

11 Prescribe and teach these things. 12 Let no one look down on your youthfulness, but rather in speech, conduct, love, faith and purity, show yourself an example of those who believe.

Psalm 139:13-18

13 For You formed my inward parts;
You wove me in my mother’s womb.
14 I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works,
And my soul knows it very well.
15 My frame was not hidden from You,
When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth;
16 Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written
The days that were ordained for me,
When as yet there was not one of them.

17 How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!
How vast is the sum of them!
18 If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.
When I awake, I am still with You.

ETERNALLY.

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